Find the Positive, Eliminate the Negative
I guess since I have spent so much time thinking about weight loss that it has made me question why I became overweight in the first place. What was I trying to avoid? It's made me look at my own personal traits for things I can also work on. One thing I have noticed is that there is only a couple of people that I told the challenge about. Even when I was first introduced to HCG, I only told those same people. When I thought about, I only wanted people that have "invested" in me to know about my personal thoughts. The strangers don't bother me at all. They can read on and I hope they become encouraged that it can work for them too.
When I first told people that I even wanted to see a specialist, some of them said people always want an easy way out. Of course I was offended because I only wanted something that works for me. Not to just take a pill and 5 weeks I am in a slim body. Now they asked what's the link to your blog and I'm thinking why should I give it to you. Everyone has that person (or in most cases, several people) who are always against you. They motivate me too because I just prove them wrong.
When I wonder why I became so "quiet", I realized it was because of other people. I'd rather be uncomfortable than to make someone else feel like that. Regardless if it is my fault or not. For instance, I had someone tell me I could be intimidating. They couldn't give me an example. It came down to I intimate others because I try to accomplish my goals. Crazy, but true. I never realized it but from that point on when someone asked what I did for a living, I hesitated. My first thought was I don't want to intimidate anyone even though I was not an intimidating person, the situation may have been.
As far finding the positive, I have seen situations where people use things to their advantage. What I am trying to say is if you are looking for negative then you will find it. Maybe when I went into a room and someone was laughing, it probably had nothing to do with me at all. But in my mind, I was certain that it was about me. As humans, we sometimes let our own insecurities get in the way. If you are looking for something negative, you will find it. I only plan to focus on the positive. There usually is something positive in every situation, whether its big or small, or even hidden.
When I first told people that I even wanted to see a specialist, some of them said people always want an easy way out. Of course I was offended because I only wanted something that works for me. Not to just take a pill and 5 weeks I am in a slim body. Now they asked what's the link to your blog and I'm thinking why should I give it to you. Everyone has that person (or in most cases, several people) who are always against you. They motivate me too because I just prove them wrong.
When I wonder why I became so "quiet", I realized it was because of other people. I'd rather be uncomfortable than to make someone else feel like that. Regardless if it is my fault or not. For instance, I had someone tell me I could be intimidating. They couldn't give me an example. It came down to I intimate others because I try to accomplish my goals. Crazy, but true. I never realized it but from that point on when someone asked what I did for a living, I hesitated. My first thought was I don't want to intimidate anyone even though I was not an intimidating person, the situation may have been.
As far finding the positive, I have seen situations where people use things to their advantage. What I am trying to say is if you are looking for negative then you will find it. Maybe when I went into a room and someone was laughing, it probably had nothing to do with me at all. But in my mind, I was certain that it was about me. As humans, we sometimes let our own insecurities get in the way. If you are looking for something negative, you will find it. I only plan to focus on the positive. There usually is something positive in every situation, whether its big or small, or even hidden.
posted by Cherie at
4:40 AM
1 Comments:
Cherie,
I share your thoughts about being selective about the people with whom you want to share your blog. when we're going through a weight loss program of any type, there seem to be the folks who love us no matter what and would love to see us succeed, and then there are the folks who just seem to want us to fail, for various reasons. It may be that if we fail, then it makes them feel better about not doing anything themselves. This is an excellent topic for a post, and I'm going to address this a little later in my own blog.
In the meantime, no one says you have to share your blog with everyone. I'm being pretty selective, too, because there are some folks that are close to me whom I classify as "saboteurs" - trying to make me feel guilty for not going out to eat, pushing food on me, etc. These are the people who, when they ask how I'm losing all the weight, I tell "I'm on a medically supervised weight loss program" and leave it at that. If they press further, I tell them to read Kevin Trudeau's book. These are also the people who will watch us like a hawk to see if we gain the weight back.
I don't have the answer, my friend - I'm just glad we're in a supportive place here.
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